It is no secret that our society demands a certain standard on people, whether it be clearly spoken, or psychologically embedded in our minds. These standards, as disturbing as it sounds, unnecessarily determine the amount of respect and the form of treatment we have toward each other. It’s saddening how these societal standards are what determines how a person should be perceived. This then makes most, if not everyone, of us go above and beyond just so we may be labeled as a person of “standard”.

These standards go beyond what can be physically seen. And in this article, we will be talking about Finishing School “On-time”. A standard very present in our country that makes students fall under unnecessary pressure (as if the academic demands aren’t enough of a stress). Here is why this certain “standard” exists:

A. Pressure From Parents and Relatives

What’s more nerve-wracking than disappointing our parents and families? If this fear isn’t around in your household, then this might not seem as bad to you. However, this does exist! A family who’s also a victim of this society’s standards would also expect you to do your best to not be society’s “shameful” son/daughter. Holidays are coming, and during these supposedly happy times are when questions like “Have you graduated yet?” and “Why not?” would seem like a Spotify playlist on repeat. And of course! Who would forget the iconic “Oh, I see. Okay” coming from a “please don’t let my disappointment show” expression?

B. Fear of Being Left Out

Peers. To be fair, this pressure has run down a little as students now understand each other’s situation more. However, as this standard has been around for too long, many still fall victim to the pressure of finishing their studies immediately just to avoid the feeling of being left behind.

Why should we be concerned? Here are some of the things I learned. First, it is unnecessarily stressful! Students should be able to find out what timeline is most efficient for them. The inevitable twists and turns in life should be taken into consideration for one to effectively learn. Second, and what I am most concerned about, are students being hesitant to leave their initial course just because they only figured out what they are most passionate about midway. And lastly, regrets. It may sound so common, but it is the worst feeling. It would be depressing to think of one's unfulfilled dreams (unless it’s something you can just pursue afterward, and if you have enough resources to do so) and know that the only reason why you didn't get the chance to chase it was that you were afraid of what the world would say.

People may have different reasons, but what I find frustrating is its impact on one's future. I hope that we would continue to learn that the world is too big and that our choices are what define us. We do not entirely hold our future, but our decisions definitely take part in molding the kind of person we become.

So, who cares what people think? Do what makes your life blissful and start by ignoring the unnecessary noise of the world.